In my experience even after you start to love someone, you can chose to stop. It's not always easy and to quote lyrics from a recent favorite radio song of mine, 'when a heart breaks, no it don't break even'. Hurting people you love and hurting yourself in the process of growing out of love isn't an easy path. But if you can chose to stop loving someone over time, then I imagine that means you chose to love them to begin with. Love, like all things, is a choice.
I was considering this as a result of watching Sweet Home Alabama which I tivo'd last week and just had time to watch tonight. I hope (and pray) I'll never have to leave someone at the alter (let alone McDreamy!) even for a cute country boy from my childhood. One likes to think you'll know before 'the big day' whether you're doing the 'right thing' or not. But I do love that movie...
Life is full of choices. When you get the opportunity, make the right one. It's a shame to waste your heart.
'Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life' - Proverbs 4:23