Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Let's go there.

I'm as sick as I'm sure most of you are of the hype surrounding Kanye West's poor manners at this years VMA's.  I admit to watching his scandal a few times (in a row) on YouTube and watching Taylor Swift's reaction as well.  With all fabulously public mistakes there is a lesson to be learned so let's chat for a brief moment about those that can come of this years outburst.

As we grow up there will be times in which we disagree with those in charge.  Whether at work, within our families, our churches, even with managers at various stores and vendors.  When we lack the power to put into effect what we think is right we have few options.  We can pull a Kanye and make people hear us (some may chose to equate this to throwing a temper tantrum), or we can chose to use opportunities such as these to develop character.  If you've ever heard your parents say 'life isn't fair' than you know what I mean here.  It is inevitable that you will experience 'wrong' in life, how you react in those situations speaks volumes to your level of maturity and the nature of your character.

Secondly and perhaps most importantly I would like to point out that while we are all guilty of making mistakes and lets face it we've all thrown our own temper tantrum at some point, how we rectify these situations is also telling.  What Kanye failed to realize when he used his own blog to 'apologize' is that when your apology includes more justification for your actions than desire to take responsibility, than you have in fact wasted your breath.  An apology should include the desire to be forgiven for your mistake or wrong doing - not a paragraph defending it.  

Apologies are tricky.  See we live in a world in which people often times blur the lines on what they are sorry for.  In reading one writers interpretation of Kanye's apology I thought she said it well when she said, 'are you sorry for what you did or for the bad publicity you brought on yourself'?  If were being honest with ourselves Kanye's not the only one who's been sorry he got 'caught' instead of sorry for his actions.  His behaviors and words since the incident would indicate he isn't sorry for what he did, he's sorry for how it was received.  Big difference.

I leave you with this...

'It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool then to speak out and remove all doubt' - Abraham Lincoln.


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