Thursday, March 3, 2011

The You, You Love.

The only wise thing I ever learned from Carrie Bradshaw (of Sex and the City - of which I've never really watched) is this... 'if you can find someone to love the you, you love, well that's just fabulous'. In light of the buzz surrounding the second movie coming out I had Carrie on the brain. That quote makes more sense to me now than it ever did before. I think after college when you get out on your own you really figure out who you are and for the lucky ones of us, you learn to love yourself. For me this had to do with finding my identity in the right place, finally.

When you figure out that you like yourself, even your crazy quirks, you realize you want the person you're with to like them too. I've confessed in previous blog entries that I'm totally quirky. If you're curious just read through some previous entries for proof of my total freakishness. If my OCD doesn't weird a guy out, the fact that I have more boy like hobbies than girl ones might? Although one of my guy friends once told me that if I learned to play video games I'd officially be the perfect girl. Hm, maybe I should invest in a Wii?

But anyway, the you, you love. What does that mean? I guess what we love most about our best friends is that even when we get scarily real with them, they like us. Every side of us. The side of us that most people even on their luckiest day will never see. The nerdy side. The lazy side. The ugly side. You know what I mean. I think I may appreciate these people more than most people I always feel like people have a strange misconception about what I'm like to begin with.
I'm morbidly curious about people's first impressions of me so I'm constantly asking someone, what did you think I'd be like? No one's ever really pinned me straight on. I get snobby, spacey, ditzy, popular (doesn't that word even apply after high school?), prissy. But really I have alot of introvenrted qualities. I love alone time. I love to read. I love peace and quiet. I love to be outside. I love to try new things. I love to take on things that scare me.

Every once in a while you find someone who sees all those qualities that you love about yourself, and they love them too. Those people are special. Those are the relationships that last. Finding them is like finding a unicorn.
If you find someone to love the you, you love - well, I'd say that's just fabulous.

1 comment:

bekah brinkley said...

the last part about your introverted qualities made me do a double take. thought you were talking about me. this is going to be fabulous. alone time reading together outside by the pool? yes, puhleeeease!!!!